Table #14 - Enda
Enda shares a relatable story about acceptance.
The Café Table

W:

How would you describe this chapter of your life, and what do you think that its teaching you?

This chapter of my life ... seems to be all about grounding. I moved to this neighborhood now, about six years ago, and it was the first time I really felt settled, at home you know? I think previous to this chapter of my life, I moved around enough. I didn't really know what I wanted to do, I was a seeker. So this chapter is very much about feeling at home, feeling settled, and I think its … what it's teaching me is just to be grateful for what I have, you know?

I’m trying to articulate something else there… I guess I was always looking for something. Always trying to accomplish something, and now … it's not so much about achieving, but sort of accepting what I have.

W:

So what do you think has changed since you’ve adopted that mindset?

Well, its definitely less of a struggle, you know. A Lot of people are using the idea of the ‘fear of missing out.’ I think I have totally let go of that. ... I kind of decided when I moved here that I wasn’t going to be constantly chasing all the things to do, because in New York you’re always missing out no matter what you do, you’re always missing out.

... Its just growing up you know? Haha. I turned 40, when I was here, and I think it was a sort of realization that 'hm, this is it.’ I am not going to become a lot of these things - to stop dreaming of becoming something else other than what I was. So there was kind of that acceptance at turning 40.